What wedding traditions did you keep? There were definitely some traditions that were important to us even though we weren't too set on following the standard wedding template. Our parents and family were so open about us doing things our way, so it made it easier to just go with what made sense to us and forget the rest. I really wanted to recite the traditional wedding vows, to me there just seemed to be something special about saying the words that so many others, including most of our family members, had said when they got married. We did a traditional cake cutting — actually we did it twice since our videographer missed it the first time! Even though I don't think many people really paid attention, it made for cute pics and highlighted one of my favorite details from our day — our personalized cake topper. The order of the ceremony and all that was pretty standard, and we didn't see each other beforehand, unless you count when I ran into my groom early that morning after picking up coffee with my girlfriends. Oops!
What wedding traditions did you ditch? It wasn't important to me to have all the bridesmaids match, and I liked the idea of a more casual look, so I asked my bridesmaids to wear any dress that they liked in a green hue. I love the way all the shades of green look in pictures and many of them have already worn their dresses again!
We decided to have my husband's aunt and uncle marry us instead of a traditional officiant or pastor. They actually officiated his sister's wedding a few years before and we loved the way it turned out. His aunt and uncle crafted our entire ceremony, and we wrote our own vows. It was the perfect balance of personal, serious wedding stuff, and a little fun!
We skipped a bouquet toss in the interest of saving time and that awkward moment when no one really wants to volunteer to participate and we also didn't do a garter toss.
We had an extra large wedding party that included our siblings, cousins, and best friends. Since we didn't want to have 20(!) people standing up with us, we only asked our immediate siblings to stand by our sides during the ceremony. The rest of the wedding party walked down the aisle and took seats in the first few rows — they got to sit and enjoy the ceremony and the rest of the guests got to see the beautiful view since there wasn't a wall of people blocking it! We didn't do a head table or a sweetheart table, instead we mixed up our friends and family and sat among them at a mix of round and rectangular tables to make the reception feel less formal.
Photo by Mi & Mo Photography