How many besties do you have? If the answer is one, you might want to rethink your relationships.
While its great to have one person with whom you share everything, according to science, it's better to have different people for different needs-- whether a spouse or a friend.
According to Psychology Today, having different people to help you deal with different emotions--rather than having one person that you always go to--is linked to greater satisfaction with your life. These are called not relationships, but "emotionships."
Basically, if you have one friend who you go to with good news, another you call when you're stressed, and another you vent to when you're upset, you're better off than if you go to the same person whatever the emotion.
According to a recent study, a broad sample of adults were asked to choose one friend that they would find helpful in the following situations:
1. Cheering them up when they are sad.
2. Calming them down when they are anxious.
3. Calming them down when they are angry.
4. Sharing their happiness over good news.
5. Amplifying their anger.
The findings? The more diverse your "emotional profile," the more satisfied you are. The researchers define a "diverse emotional profile" as someone who, across a variety of emotions reports having a number of people in their life specializing in those emotions."
Each emotional profile was measured across three categories:
1. Breadth: "The number of emotional domains in which participants listed at least one emotionship."
2. Depth of each domain: "The average number of emotionships participants had per emotional domain."
3. Specialization: "The proportion of individuals in participants' emotionship portfolio that served one emotion-regulation function."
The bottom line is that you're better off not putting all your emotions onto one person--at the end, it's better for both of you.