Words of Affirmation
Like a curious 4-year-old, people who speak this love language want to know why. Why you love them. Why you appreciate them. Why you're upset with them or sorry you upset them. Think of "words of affirmation" like meaningful, positive feedback you hopefully get from a manager at work. Many of us also crave this reinforcement in our relationships, too.
How to put it into action:
- Compliment your partner with specific language. Tell them why you think they look beautiful today, acknowledge when they impress you, and be sure to tell them why you're sorry if you mess up.
- Pay attention to topics your partner is sensitive about, like work or a friend relationship, and proactively offer words of encouragement.
- Avoid harsh language or a critical, "just being honest" tone. If you have a complaint to share, make sure you make time to talk it through and have specifics.
More inspiration: 10 Creative Ways to Say "I Love You"