Be honest: as a mom, it's sometimes fun to rip on dads. Whether we've got a truly equal partner at home or have genuine problems with how the men in our lives contribute to raising kids, we all seem to get a kick out of ribbing them in one way or another. Although some debates — like those about the inequitable gender divide of the "mental load" — are valid, what seems to be most popular on the internet is making dads look like "incompetent, childish idiots."
One popular mom blogger, Kristina Kuzmic, knows this to be true — she's even been asked to specifically create "videos mocking dads." But she took to Facebook to vow that she'll never do it. Here's why:
- For the same reason I wouldn't mock moms. I'm rooting for all parents.
- Because I don't think mocking people will make them step-up and do a better job. It will only cause them to do even less. (As I've said before: Feeling like a loser has never helped anyone thrive in life.)
- I have sons who might someday decide to be dads, and I refuse to create any content that would make my boys think that men are less capable than women of being great parents or homemakers.
If what you're feeling right about now is a heavy dose of guilt, perhaps it's time to let go of the bad habit of mocking dads. And, if you still think it's OK, consider this:
"If men talked about moms the way women talk about dads, it would be considered completely unacceptable," she said.
No parent is perfect — that goes for both moms and dads. So, as Kristina advised, "let's make it unacceptable to label an entire gender as inadequate."